The Psychology Of Clutter: 5 reasons we hold onto things

Written By Melinda Ferrier

Have you ever found yourself surrounded by possessions that seem to pile up endlessly? Clutter can be defined as ‘items that are strewn about in a disorganised fashion’.  It is a collection of items that people accumulate in their homes and don't necessarily use but hold on to anyway.  It's a common struggle many of us face.  

Here are a few startling statistics highlighting just how common this problem is:

  • 80 % of items we keep are never used (NAPO, USA))

  • In the UK almost 1.5 million rooms are currently lost to clutter – filled with items no longer needed or used (Express)

  • In Canada two in ten (21%) Canadians admit that they have at least a couple of rooms in their house that are out of control (IPSOS)

  • Australians have almost $60 billion worth of unused items in their homes (Choosi)

Clutter can weigh heavily on our lives, impeding our ability to find peace and clarity. So then why do we find it so hard to let go of certain items, even when they no longer serve a purpose or bring you joy? 


Delving into the psychology of clutter reveals a complex web of emotions and motivations driving our attachment to possessions. There is a myriad of reasons why we hold onto items. Today, I'm sharing insights into just five of these compelling reasons, shedding light on why we cling to possessions long after they've ceased to serve us.

Reason 1 : Sentimental Attachment

One of the primary reasons we hold onto clutter is sentimental attachment. We form emotional bonds with our belongings, making it tough to part ways even when they're no longer useful. Perhaps it’s an old school uniform from your childhood or a present from your late grandmother? Letting go of these items can feel like we are letting go of part of ourselves or others.  No wonder it feels hard!  For instance, I struggled to let go of old clothes that no longer fit me but held fond memories of overseas travels.

Reason 2:  Fear 

Fear is another reason we hold onto things- fear of needing something later, fear of letting go, and fear of making the wrong decision.  This fear can lead to paralysis and clutter piling up over time.  One of the most common just-in-case collections I see are old cords and cables. I know I used to keep a drawer full of spare parts and gadgets, fearing I might need them someday.  Are you holding on to items just in case you might need them?  



Reason 3: Security

Thirdly, clutter can serve as a form of security or comfort for some people.  Holding onto clutter may be a way of avoiding uncomfortable feelings or memories, creating a barrier between ourselves and our innermost thoughts and feelings.  I recall holding on to old pieces of furniture when I moved location because it reminded me of my old home and provided a sense of stability during a period of uncertainty in my life.


Reason 4: Guilt

Guilt is a fourth reason we hold on to items.  We sometimes hold onto clutter because we feel guilty about getting rid of something we have spent money on, or it was a gift, or an inherited item. When I decluttered my wardrobe, I found endless items (with tags) that I had been holding on to because of the money I had spent. I had to accept that the money was gone!  We often hang on to items we don’t really like, because they were given as a gift. Are you holding on to items out of guilt?


Reason 5: Consumerist Culture

Lastly, our consumerist culture perpetuates the idea that accumulating more stuff leads to greater happiness and success. We're bombarded with messages that urge us to buy into the belief that possessions equal fulfillment. It's easy to fall into the trap of thinking "more is better," isn't it? I recall moments when I felt compelled to hold onto items, believing they were necessary for my happiness or status. When I worked through all ofmy possessions I discovered that they didn't genuinely bring me joy, and instead were just clutter.



Understanding why we cling to clutter is the first step to breaking free. When you find yourself hanging on to an item, ask yourself why.  It may well be one of these 5 reasons.


I'd love to hear about your experiences or thoughts on this topic. Let me know in the comments below.

If this process sounds overwhelming to you, you are not alone.  I would love the opportunity to help you. I have a 12-week online group coaching program, designed to empower you to take action, declutter, and organise your home, freeing up space, time, and energy to fully enjoy life. Click this link to find out more and schedule a call with me and see if this program is the right fit for you.

Mel x

Live Life Organised


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Melinda Ferrier
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